Getting Rid of High Expectations: Psychologist's Tips

18.12.2023 16:10
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:21

When your expectations are too high, then it might be harder for you to be actually happy with anything you do.

Sometimes people have these high expectations intentionally, but often they don't even understand that they expect too much.

Here are a few tips on how to get your expectations lower and become generally happier.

Focus on Effort, Not Perfection

Embrace the idea that effort and progress matter more than perfection. 

Recognize and appreciate the steps you take toward your goals.

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Practice Mindfulness

Stay present in the current moment rather than fixating on future outcomes. 

Mindfulness helps in appreciating what you have and experiencing joy in the present.

Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, regardless of their size. 

This cultivates a positive mindset and reinforces a sense of accomplishment.

Challenge Negative Thoughts

Actively challenge negative or overly critical thoughts. 

Replace them with more balanced and positive perspectives to create a healthier mindset.

Diversify Your Measures of Success

Look beyond conventional measures of success. 

Consider personal growth, relationships, and well-being as valuable indicators of a fulfilling life.

Avoid Comparisons

Refrain from comparing yourself to others, especially on social media. 

Recognize that everyone's journey is unique, and external appearances may not reflect the full picture.

Adjust Expectations Gradually

If you notice consistently high expectations, work on gradually adjusting them. Understand that change takes time and effort.

Learn from Setbacks

View setbacks as opportunities for learning and growth rather than as failures. 

Analyze what went wrong, adjust your approach, and move forward with newfound knowledge.

Previously, we talked about team play.

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


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  1. Focus on Effort, Not Perfection
  2. Practice Mindfulness
  3. Celebrate Small Wins
  4. Challenge Negative Thoughts
  5. Diversify Your Measures of Success
  6. Avoid Comparisons
  7. Adjust Expectations Gradually
  8. Learn from Setbacks