Any toxic relationship takes a toll on emotional health. Therefore, it is important to be able to track this and defend your boundaries.
Ambivalent relationships are more dangerous than negative ones
According to a 2005 study, unpredictable relationships with a person cause more stress and uncertainty than just negative ones.
In addition, ambivalent behavior can cause psychosomatic disorders. For example, high blood pressure.
How to Set Boundaries with a Toxic Fickle Person
Put yourself first. Don't settle for something you don't really want.
Tell yourself that you have a voice and can deny people anything.
Track your needs and desires. Appreciate your time and effort.
Use I-messages. For example, if you don't want to spend time with a person, don't tell them what their problems are. Instead, say: I have a lot to do and can't meet you today.
